"There's No Crying in Baseball"

     If you saw the movie A League of Their Own, you may remember the line Tom Hank's character stated to a player during the baseball game..."Crying?  There's no crying in baseball?!"
     That scene makes me laugh every time I think of it, because Tom Hanks is funny, but also because baseball is a game!  It is suppose to be a fun game, just as adoption should be a celebratory event!  Unfortunately, there is crying in adoption. 

     You will hear repeatedly from experts that adoption is about grief.  There is grieving from all members of the adoption triad (birth parents, adoptee, and adoptive parents).  There is loss.
     There is crying because of anxiousness, confusion, fear, absence, empathy, and frustration.  
     Because of conviction, love, and sacrifice.
     There is crying because of uncertainty. 
     There is crying when people touch your heart with their amazing support!  
     When there is understanding.  When people are good to each other and also when they are not.
     There is crying when things don't go according to plan and when you can't believe they do.
     There is crying because it is a draining process.

     All of this crying, grieving, and loss sounds depressing doesn't it?  It is not all the time.  There is also happiness, hope, pride, joy, anticipation, love, understanding, respect, and healing.  It is a process.